Snap Out Of It, Crystal

Happy Monday!

(or “hi there!”, if you’ve stopped by on another day.) šŸ˜‰

Iā€™m not sure how you feel, but I’m thinking if the days continue to fly by (Weā€™re almost three weeks into September!) then Iā€™m about to become a teeny bit nervous. It means the holiday season is not only around the corner, but itā€™s barreling down on us at full speed!

Take this last weekend, for example. I had a long list of things that needed doing but all of a sudden it was Sunday night and I hadn’t done half of them. I couldn’t believe it. It made me think, though. Iā€™m at a point in life where Iā€™m finally realizing that I need to acknowledge a critical fact – Iā€™ll never be able to do all I want to do in any given weekend, or month for that matter. Itā€™s time for me to be content if I finish the most important things. There, I said it! Next I have to put it into practice. šŸ˜‰

I need to re-write my lists with the absolute priorities at the top, the moderately essential things in the middle, and with an eraser for the things on the bottom!!! Iā€™ll bet if I tried, I could really shorten the end of that old list ā€“ eliminate some of those would-like-toā€™s and feel better for doing so!!

When I look back on the last few days, and the chores I never got to, I am comforted when I remember what I did do.

* I did spend quality time with my parents šŸ™‚ (who will be leaving for their winter home in Florida in a few weeks and so I wonā€™t get to see them as often).

* We did drive into the city to see our daughterā€™s band perform. We loved it and she was happy we were there. šŸ™‚

In the grand scheme of things, we accomplished much. Nothing could be more important than making memories with people you love . . . certainly not to-do-lists!

The Weekly Question!

How do you handle the ever-present “time crunch” in your world?

Hugs,

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I’d like to order a 26-hour day, please!

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Iā€™m not sure about all of you, but lately I feel as if the day is never long enough. Itā€™s bedtime and I havenā€™t finished everything I wanted to do. Carol expressed a similar sentiment in one of her recent posts. Reading her take on things gave me some comfort and also reminded me that we women are pretty lucky. Itā€™s our nature to feel free enough to express our fears and what bothers us. In doing so, we help each other know that we’re often all in the same boat.

The more I thought about that, it reminded me of an old newspaper article that’s been stored in the back section of my recipe box. My mother cut it out of the paper in 1954(!) when she was a young bride. Then, when I got married, she gave it to me along with several of her hand-written recipes. I’ve used the recipes many times over the years, but the article has mostly been buried in the back of the box.

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Here it is – a clipping from The Boston Globe, April 1954. Long before there were forums or blogs or the internet, women found ways to share life with each other. This article is from a regular feature that ran in the Globe called the ā€œConfidential Chatā€. Women would send letters to the newspaper offering advice to each other on marriage, raising children, taking care of a home, recipes, etc. The newspaper then published these letters in a column that attracted lots of participants and was widely read, for many years.

The article pictured above was one of the most popular and most requested (as a re-print) in the history of the ā€œConfidential Chatā€. And, honestly itā€™s as timely today as it was then. Women have always wondered how to do it all and still keep the house in some sort of livable order. They may not have worked outside the home in earlier years, but everything about running a home was harder and much more time-consuming then, so those ladies had no more time than the women of today who must juggle a job and a family. See if you agree that the article’s author, the ā€œ20-Minute Galā€, had a good plan.

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Her theory was that most women are so over-burdened with the necessary chores like cooking, dishes, and laundry, that thereā€™s no time or energy for the other tasks involved in keeping a home reasonably clean and tidy. She advised that you spend 20 minutes a day on an extra chore and to do it early in the day before you are tired. After 20 minutes, you must STOP. ā€œDonā€™t cheat!ā€ She said. She promised that after a few weeks, the house would begin to shine, and that in a few months – it would be a pleasure to behold.

20-Minute Gal’s Famous 20 Minute Plan

In one 20-minute period per day, you can do one of the following:

Clean all lampshades in the house

Wash the tops of all doors and windows – which takes a lot of dust out of the house and saves on regular dusting.

Wash the glass on all pictures in the house.

Wash all mirrors

Clean all ceiling lights

Clean and wax one piece of furniture

Wash one window and wax the woodwork casing.

Clean one rug

Ordinarily youā€™d probably take all the curtains down at once in a room, but instead do ONE pair only. Swish them in soapy water – donā€™t count the drying time – and then give them a touch-up with the iron. If it takes longer than 20 minutes to have them ready to re-hang ā€“ get new curtains! Life is too short to spend a lot of time caring for curtains!!!

Sort items in a closet ā€“ but only in 20-minute intervals!

Clean/sort one bureau drawer for 20 minutes ā€“ again, donā€™t cheat. Maybe the first time you are just taking out things you know you can eliminate.

Wash one painted wall. Start at the top; work your way down.

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There were more suggestions for 20-minute chores and she encouraged you to come up with your own, as well. It makes sense to me, and now that Iā€™ve re-discovered this clipping, Iā€™m going to give the “plan” a genuine try!

You have to love the spirit of sharing and encouragement that went on with this Confidential Chat group. The Boston Globe’s “Chat” was discontinued after the internet began to thrive, but it’s nice to see how women of previous generations sought to connect with each other, and that there was such genuine support in those connections.

We continue the tradition today with the friends we meet on blogs and other online forums. We, too, console and reassure and cheer for each other. In the words of an old song . . . “We are women. Hear us roar!” šŸ˜‰

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